In the weeks after my father passed, I found myself sitting with him at a TWA departure gate in some nondescript, silvery gray airport. My father didn‘t say anything, and little happened in the dream. After a second dream of waiting with him at the TWA gate, the symbolism suddenly hit me. The TWA gate symbolically stood for ‘Trans World Airlines’ – the most appropriate airline for the recently deceased to transfer from the world of the living to the realm of the dead.
Looking back, I now see how this dream symbolically reflected my inner emotional processing of my father‘s transition. He sat at the gate with apparently nothing left to do, except for me to accept his journey. Though some might wonder if the spiritual essence of my father sat with me in these dreams, it seems to me that I sat with a dream figure, a symbolic projection of my mind.
How can a curious person reasonably determine the status of such encounters? The following points may help you notice subtle distinctions that differentiate the nature of deceased dream figures:
1) Active versus static dream figures
If the deceased dream figure initiates action or seeks to contact you or show you something, then it suggests a possible encounter with the person‘s spiritual essence. But if the deceased dream figure sits like a potted plant, as my father did at the TWA gate, then the lack of purposeful activity suggests a symbolic projection of one‘s mind.
2) Knowledgeable dream figures
If the deceased dream figure comes with a message, warning or advice (in person or by phone, etc.), then it suggests a possible encounter. Interestingly, Frederick van Eeden the person who many believe coined the term ‘lucid dreaming’ recounted an experience where a deceased brother in law warned him of an upcoming financial loss, which van Eeden later experienced. If the dream figure seems to lack new or novel information, then it may suggest a symbolic projection.
3) How he or she looks in the dream
When you encounter the deceased, do they look younger, more vital and healthy than when they passed? Or do they reflect their appearance when last seen (for example in a state of ill health and decline)? When I see my maternal grandmother in a dream and she seems in her thirties (while I only knew her in her 70‘s and older), it suggests the dream figure has acted to re-cast themselves as they prefer to be seen instead of as I recall them. This observation seems to indicate a dream figure independent of my thinking or memory, which leads me to assume a dream visitation.
4) Eye contact
When we engage others, we often look them in the eye. The eye to eye contact often helps us see their response or sense of inner activity. If we recall a dream of the deceased and their eyes seem active and lively, it suggests an encounter. However if they fail to look in our eyes or seem to stare passively into space, then it suggests a symbolic projection.
5) Your dream occurs during grieving or long afterwards
If the dream appearance of the deceased occurs during the time of active grieving, then it may simply reflect the inner work of processing your emotions. By contrast, if the deceased appear many years later (after the normal mourning process has ended) and possibly seek you out or share information, then it seems more suggestive of an encounter.
In lucid dreams, it seems easier to determine a dream figure‘s status, especially if you thoughtfully interact with the deceased dream figure, judge their awareness and test their responsiveness, knowledge and behavior. You can even ask them questions and obtain information outside of your knowing, which you can later seek to validate. Together, this input should clarify the situation.

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